In our western world, the predominant way of thinking is the “well-practiced pattern of knowing most things by comparison,” i.e., “either/or.”
Is it good or bad? Are you with me or against me? I’m right, you are wrong.
When we do this comparing (or judging), we reach a conclusion that one option is good and the other is less good. I’m going to suggest another approach that rises above this and offers a perspective that adds value, clarity and wisdom in finding solutions to our business challenges.
It is called non-dualistic thinking, to be “both/and” at the same time. What is it?
- First, it’s acknowledging that paradox and contradiction is a normal state in which we live. Example – My mind tells me my business is not making enough money, but on the other hand, my heart says if I didn’t have to make money, I would do this. So, should I close up shop or follow my heart and live with the consequences? This very situation came up in a phone call this week with a person. What this was creating was fear!
- Second, instead of forcing yourself to choose one hand over the other (either/or), insert “both/and” in the situation. Example: How can I still keep my business going to make money and follow my heart? By posing the situation in this manner, you are not excluding either part. It opens up the situation to possibilities. The reality is not one, but now two.
What we need to keep in mind that it’s possible that two contradictory viewpoints can co-exist. There does not need to be a winner or loser. Instead, you create a shift in your dialogue and mentality to consider all possibilities recognizing there’s still a lot we don’t know. But, we are no longer fearful and judgmental, but hopeful and accepting of the situation. By the way, this is a mindfulness practice.
When we allow all perspectives and seek for inclusion, we will find more sustainable solutions in our work and lives.
In Collaboration,
~ Kevin
