Self-compassion “involves treating yourself the way you would treat a friend who is having a hard time. . .a practice in which we learn to be a good friend to ourselves when we need it most.” (The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristen Neff, PhD and Christopher Germer, PhD, 2018)
This past week, I facilitated a self-compassion seminar for bank employees. I began by asking the participants to reflect on these questions:
- When you fail or make a mistake, what kinds of things run through your mind?
- Do you have a critical voice? If so, what do you find it saying to you?
- A good friend or trusted co-worker comes to you who made a mistake. What would you say to that friend or co-worker?
- What if you started to treat yourself like you treat a good friend or co-worker; to use the same voice with yourself as with your friend or co-worker?
- How would our workplace, personal life or world be different if we were more compassionate toward ourselves?
These questions challenge us to discern the meaning of self-compassion, how we extend compassion to others, and what blocks us from extending compassion to ourselves. How would you answer these questions?
I invite you to view this short YouTube video called The Power of Self-Compassion produced by Kristen Neff and Christopher Germer. The above questions are asked of several individuals (not actors). Listen to their responses. Are you hearing yourself?
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